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Posts from the ‘Perspective’ Category

Geezers, Fools… and Ignoring Greg Allman

How fine is the line between optimism and delusion? Do you respond when reality taps you on the shoulder, or do you wait until it hits you over the head? Those questions played out personally as I tried to apply the works of leadership consultant and author Dr. Henry Cloud. My thought process was impacted by, of all things, a press release by quarterback Philip Rivers, and some lyrics penned by Greg Allman. Go figure. Continue reading “Geezers, Fools… and Ignoring Greg Allman” »

Worthy of a Hug

When a great story presses on your heart, it can change you.  From then on, the world around you never looks the same.

Last month I attended the February meeting of Lifework Leadership of South Florida. The theme for the morning’s meeting was Compassion. We began our day by boarding a bus to tour some local Fort Lauderdale facilities that provide resources to the homeless. Our tour guide, Robin Martin, the Executive Director of Hope South Florida, shared information and anecdotes, to help us understand the magnitude of the need in the community. He also humanized the situation: sometimes financial, sometimes medical, often tragic, and destined to continue, unless we as business leaders DO something. Continue reading “Worthy of a Hug” »

My Mini Manti Moment

As we watched the events unfold around Manti T’eo and the love of his life / figment of his imagination, Lenay Kekua, many of us drew the same conclusion: either he is one devious son-of-a-gun, or he’s one of the most gullible people on the planet. It was OK for me to believe that and say it – but the first time I heard it expressed by someone else, I had one of those uncomfortable flashbacks. Continue reading “My Mini Manti Moment” »

A Legacy of Effort and Excellence

“Carve your name on hearts, not tombstones. A legacy is etched into the minds of others and the stories they share about you.” Shannon L. Alder

The pursuit of excellence. Wouldn’t we all like to say that it is our daily focus?  Ah, but life always seems to get in the way. Deadlines. Conflicts. Guilty pleasures like reality TV or Krispy Kreme doughnuts. It’s easy to get lost online for hours between tweets and posts, pings and pokes. Before long, we’re making excuses or compromising. It just happens. Continue reading “A Legacy of Effort and Excellence” »

Sticks and Stones

We all know the nursery rhyme, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” But we’ve all been hurt by things that are said to us. The little bruises and scars teach us lessons and help shape our perspective. But some bruises run very deep, and remain sensitive decades later. And sometimes your bruise reminds me of my own. Continue reading “Sticks and Stones” »

Pretty Stinking Cool

little voiceSome of you may recommend the therapist’s couch after I share this, but sometimes I hear a little voice. Let me start by saying I believe that life – daily life – should be driven by faith, effort, and optimism. I also WANT to believe that people are fundamentally good and that they are worthy of trust. But if you lie to me? You’re done. I’m working on forgiveness, I really am. But in the meantime, the BS meter is active. And when the BS meter goes off, the little voice can be heard. Continue reading “Pretty Stinking Cool” »

The Samaritan and the Saint

Martin Luther King, Jr.The first question which the priest and the Levite asked was:  “If I stop to help this man, what will happen to me?”  But… the good Samaritan reversed the question:  “If I do not stop to help this man, what will happen to him?”  ~Martin Luther King, Jr. (delivered on April 3, 1968, the night before he was assassinated)


What causes a person to dig deep and devote their life to someone they hardly know? When a child is abandoned by a family and neglected by society, what moves another person to say, “I’ll take the responsibility?” Maybe it’s faith. Maybe it’s a heightened social maturity. Or maybe there’s a sense that both people will be blessed in a powerful way. In the case of Becky and Jimmy, I think it’s all three. Continue reading “The Samaritan and the Saint” »

Giving His All

History is sometimes a matter a perspective. When you witness an event with your eyes, it may be a fleeting memory. When you feel it in your bones, it can stay with you for years. When it hammers on your heart, you remember it for a lifetime.

William & Mary Basketball

Photo by College of William and Mary on Flickr

The greatest sporting experience I’ve ever had started with only a glimmer of hope. When the game ended I thought it was the most exciting basketball game I’d ever seen. But it was only on reflection years later that I began to truly appreciate the enormity of what I’d witnessed on December 7, 1977. Continue reading “Giving His All” »

Worth Getting Messy

Many of us like to address messy situations from a comfortable distance. We feel better if we can help out by writing a check or volunteering for a few hours. If we’re not too busy.  If we’re pretty sure there won’t be a lot of drama involved. But who in their right mind would embrace the opportunity to help people in the midst of crisis – whenever and wherever – and do it every day?  Perhaps someone who recognizes his gifts. Someone who sees God’s calling for his life. Someone like Bob Barnes. Continue reading “Worth Getting Messy” »

Loving My Life – Like a 14 Year Old Kid

As a Vistage Chair, I get the opportunity to work with people who are trying to get better every day. I cherish the role, because I’m such a work in progress myself. Been there, screwed it up, learned a lesson. I continue to look for positive examples and people who can make me a better me.  One of the role models who helps shape me as a person and a parent is fourteen years old. At least he was forty years ago. Continue reading “Loving My Life – Like a 14 Year Old Kid” »